When life truly does not seem fair…cancer sucks!

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It’s been an overwhelming, emotional week. One of those tough weeks where you not only feel like you’re climbing a mountain but you also have a 30kg pack on your back and every step is a struggle to keep going. But you know you have to because the alternative is that you crumble in a defeated heap to the ground.

Mel and Charlie

Mel and Charlie

It’s a week when life doesn’t seem fair. It’s a week where I am questioning my existence; questioning my long-held belief that we are all born to live a higher purpose and can create the life we want.

But no matter how I am feeling, my overwhelmingly emotional week is nothing compared to what others close to my heart are going through right now.

My beautiful child-hood friend, my echo twin, Mel and her family are living their nightmare. You see, this week they were told that their beloved eight-year old baby girl, Charlie, was dying.

After eight years of fighting an insidious cancer, Neuroblastoma, Mel, her husband Brett and son, Tom, were told that the cancer has won. Charlie has been placed in palliative care and won’t be going home.

I can still remember the call eight years ago when Mel phoned in tears to tell me little Charlie’s body was riddled with tumours – she was eight months old. I received another call from Mel when Charlie was four years old to tell me the cancer was back, at six years old and again last August when Charlie was seven.

I also remember that Saturday afternoon last August when myself and five of my closest girlfriends, my besties, met Mel down at Dudley pub to find out how dire the situation was. I have never seen Mel so heartbroken, her shoulders slumped, face drawn, eyes red and tired.

This time it was different. What Mel told us was when this dreaded cancer keeps coming back and more quickly than the last, the outlook is ominous.

The doctors had told Mel that they weren’t sure what to do but would keep trying to fight back that f%*king cancer as best they could.

Mel and Brett are amazing parents and Tom the most loving, adoring brother. But it seems that love it not always enough because is if it was Char would be the healthiest girl there is.

How is it fair that a little girl spend her life being operated on, radiated, scanned, prodded and poked, fed toxic chemotherapy drugs and receiving experimental treatments.

After all these years that bastard cancer has taken over. It’s not fair for anyone who is fighting cancer. It’s not fair the disease wins.

Mel, Brett, Tom or anyone who has lost a loved-one close to their heart has an insight into what our real purpose is and the meaning of life: and that is to be there for each other; to love, nuture and cherish those close to our hearts.

Because once our time on earth has gone, there is no chance to make up for lost time. Be with your children and tell them you love them everyday.

I ask you all to please pray for little Charlie, Mel, Brett, Tom and their extended family. I am hoping God will listen and grant her a last minute miracle.

Mel 🙁

Melissa Histon

Photographer, philanthropist, adventurer, blogger, avid permitter and social changer, Melissa Histon is a woman on a mission to make a real difference to the lives of women globally. Melissa spent 10 years working in the corporate world before leaving to establish a successful photography business. After experiencing a number of life-altering events, Melissa created The Sista Code in May 2014 with a dream to see women empowered, happy and connected. Whether it's building a house for the homeless in Nepal, interviewing inspiring women from around the globe, or creating events and campaigns to support sistas escaping domestic violence, Melissa knows that true change can only happen when we all stand together and boost each other.


  1. Trudy

    March 25, 2015 at 10:14 pm

    My heart is breaking Mel – that is so sad and heart-wrenching for that lovely family and their extended family. That little girl is very loved – thoughts and prayers are with her and you <3

    • Jennifer willamson

      March 26, 2015 at 2:32 am

      Beautifully said ❤️❤️ she will remain as an agel that touched our hearts forever!

  2. Vanessa

    March 26, 2015 at 3:44 am

    Mel, such sad news for s beautiful strong family. I am praying a miracle will happen. God bless them xo

  3. Sharen Richards

    March 26, 2015 at 6:11 am

    Your story brought me to tears as does the whole Charlie and Carr Family story….how strong can a family be? How do you spend time with your 8 year old knowing any breath could be their last? Like you Mel, I like to find positives in any situation……I’m still searching here

  4. Marian Day

    March 26, 2015 at 10:17 am

    Oh it is just too much. Sweet innocent children. This is so wrong.
    much love, Marian

  5. Mary Oliver

    April 2, 2015 at 5:41 am

    i don’t know your family, I only know of you and followed Charlie’s story, I am so sad for all and wish that it had a happy ending but obviously it wasn’t meant to be, stay strong for your Charlie and I am thinking of you all

  6. Simone parker

    April 7, 2015 at 3:28 am

    Such a devastating story I have tears in my eyes. Cancer at all is unfair and in small children is just so wrong. Charlie looks like a beautiful girl and I wish little Charlie and her family peace and love and sending a hug to you Meissa x

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